I want to start off by saying that I love anal sex. My first experience was at age seventeen with my then boyfriend who was ten years older than me. He suggested we try it while taking a breather during a good sex session at his apartment one evening, and being the super experimental girl I was, I immediately said yes despite never really having given it much thought before.
There was absolutely zero prep. We used the juices from my pussy as lube, and very slowly, he pushed himself inside me. He started with just the tip of his cock, rocking back and forth gently to stretch my incredibly tight hole, holding still when it got too much so I could adjust to the pressure. It took a good fifteen minutes or so before he could fully enter me, and my ass felt so incredibly full and stretched that I could barely breathe. He handed me a vibrator and told me to use it on my clit, which really enhanced the experience and helped me to relax. The experience verged on painful, but thanks to his patience and perseverance I had an experience that I wanted to repeat. I could tell this would feel amazing with some practice, and I loved how absolutely filthy it made me feel. Like I had been violated (but consensually of course).
Nowadays, with the right prep, I can be entered fairly quickly and easily, and I adore how full and stretched my ass feels when I’m being fucked with a nice thick cock. But ONLY if I’ve been prepped properly first. Here is my guide on how to prep for anal, whether it’s your first time or fiftieth time. Although, if it’s your first time, you’ll definitely need to go smaller and much slower when it comes to the act, so take your time!
Step 1. Anal douche. There is nothing worse than realising there is poop on your partners cock during anal sex (unless they are into that of course - not me though!) It smells awful and is a mood killer. To avoid this being an issue, I use a medium sized anal douche to clear any of the unwanted brown stuff away.
Step 2. Lubricant. My number one saying is you can never have too much lube. It prevents grazes and pulling of the skin, and makes everything feel so, so much better. It’s absolutely essential to use when having anal sex.
Step 3. Butt plug. If you’re new to anal sex, start with the smallest size one you can buy. Lube it up and have your partner slide it in your anus very slowly. Leave it there for a little while so your ass can adjust to the stretch. You can fuck as normal while it sits there, and you’ll probably find it enhances vaginal sex as it makes everything feel tighter there too. Then, if and when you are ready, you can either move up a size for more stretch and prep, or move onto using your partner’s cock.
Important note about butt plugs: never use anything without a flared base. It can literally get sucked in and lost up there, and only a trip to the hospital can remove it! Buy purpose-made toys and use those only.
Step 4. Its ass-fucking time! Add some extra lube to your booty-hole and start off slow. To start with, just the tip of their dick should be enough. They should allow you time to adjust to their size, especially if they have a large one. Then, slowly, they can begin to slide deeper, bit by bit, until your ass is full of cock and you are stretched and feeling fuller than you ever thought you could feel.
Top tip: If you are still finding it to be painful or too uncomfortable to do, try using a vibrator on your clit (or on your cock!) to turn that discomfort into pleasure. Sometimes a bit of pain can enhance things, and stimulating your clit can help you relax.
First time anal sex: You need a partner who you can completely trust for your first time in particular, as a bad first experience could not only put you off anal sex for life, but also cause mental trauma, so please choose your partner for first-time anal sex carefully. They need to be willing to put your pleasure and safety first, not a selfish prick who will slam their cock in deep the first chance they get, whether it hurts you or not.
Final note
Don’t worry if the way I prep and fuck doesn’t work for you. Everybody experiences sex and life differently, and you’ll find your own way of doing things over time. What works for you may not work for someone else, so do your research and don’t be afraid to experiment.
If you have your own prep routine or tips and tricks you’d like to share, feel free to comment below. We learn from one another, so sharing is caring!
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